CounSouling
CounSouling is support for people to be in alignment with their highest and most authentic Self. I find that this alleviates suffering and helps people feel more joyful and fulfilled in their day to day experiences. This doesn't mean challenges aren't faced and we do not feel pain. Challenges and pain are part of the human experience and are actually helpful in facilitating our growth, if we let them.
The work I do is all about helping people get out of their own way and let themselves grow through what they go through. When we suffer, it's because we are not allowing growth. We are holding onto the past or stewing in grief, resentment, anger, etc.. When we are unhappy, it's because we are not following our true desires, what we really want. We are putting ourselves in a helpless or powerless role, which leads to suffering. CounSouling is empowering. It guides people to take responsibility for themselves and create the life they want, rather than trying to settle or make something work, sacrificing their Truth. You have a Truth and you deserve to live that Truth. CounSouling can help you find that clarity and make decisions to align your life with your Truth so that you can get what your Soul really wants out of this lifetime!
After 30+ years of settling and trying to make things I really didn't want work, I am finally starting to show up as my highest and most authentic Self: a CounSouler providing deep, meaningful practices that help people harness their power and create the life they truly desire. I practice what I preach and have used all of the practices I offer for my own personal growth. I am happier than I have ever been and feel more excited than ever to be alive. Facing challenges feels less scary the more work I do with this model. It supports me in feeling more grounded in myself, allowing me to trust and listen to my body to guide me through anything life brings my way.
Through CounSouling, we'll discover and recover the real You, the You you were before life got ahold of you and made you toughen up, or get small, hide, or morph completely into someone you aren't just to please others, the You beyond the fears and insecurities of this human experience. This is the You who has a purpose and direction mapped out for You for this lifetime and who truly loves You, all the parts of You, unconditionally. It is the You that is patient and compassionate with You as You go through this human experience, learning, growing, and evolving into the highest and truest You.
CounSouling uses the wisdom and magic of the Enneagram, Numerology, Akashic Records, and Human Design to understand your unique energy. The Enneagram is a great starting point because it reveals our protective mechanisms and the negative beliefs that keep us stuck in patterns that no longer serve us. Numerology shows us the energies guiding us through this life. The Akashic Records are essentially our Soul's transcripts and can reveal our Soul's origins and history, as well as provide insight into why we may be having certain struggles in this lifetime. Human Design reveals how to best work with our unique energy system to harness our power and make our dreams come true! It's all so magical I can barely keep from shouting it from the roof tops or at the very least typing in all CAPS! I offer these services for individuals, couples, families, businesses and organizations. I've provided a brief introduction to each of these practices below, as well as some of may favorite books on these practices.
The work I do is all about helping people get out of their own way and let themselves grow through what they go through. When we suffer, it's because we are not allowing growth. We are holding onto the past or stewing in grief, resentment, anger, etc.. When we are unhappy, it's because we are not following our true desires, what we really want. We are putting ourselves in a helpless or powerless role, which leads to suffering. CounSouling is empowering. It guides people to take responsibility for themselves and create the life they want, rather than trying to settle or make something work, sacrificing their Truth. You have a Truth and you deserve to live that Truth. CounSouling can help you find that clarity and make decisions to align your life with your Truth so that you can get what your Soul really wants out of this lifetime!
After 30+ years of settling and trying to make things I really didn't want work, I am finally starting to show up as my highest and most authentic Self: a CounSouler providing deep, meaningful practices that help people harness their power and create the life they truly desire. I practice what I preach and have used all of the practices I offer for my own personal growth. I am happier than I have ever been and feel more excited than ever to be alive. Facing challenges feels less scary the more work I do with this model. It supports me in feeling more grounded in myself, allowing me to trust and listen to my body to guide me through anything life brings my way.
Through CounSouling, we'll discover and recover the real You, the You you were before life got ahold of you and made you toughen up, or get small, hide, or morph completely into someone you aren't just to please others, the You beyond the fears and insecurities of this human experience. This is the You who has a purpose and direction mapped out for You for this lifetime and who truly loves You, all the parts of You, unconditionally. It is the You that is patient and compassionate with You as You go through this human experience, learning, growing, and evolving into the highest and truest You.
CounSouling uses the wisdom and magic of the Enneagram, Numerology, Akashic Records, and Human Design to understand your unique energy. The Enneagram is a great starting point because it reveals our protective mechanisms and the negative beliefs that keep us stuck in patterns that no longer serve us. Numerology shows us the energies guiding us through this life. The Akashic Records are essentially our Soul's transcripts and can reveal our Soul's origins and history, as well as provide insight into why we may be having certain struggles in this lifetime. Human Design reveals how to best work with our unique energy system to harness our power and make our dreams come true! It's all so magical I can barely keep from shouting it from the roof tops or at the very least typing in all CAPS! I offer these services for individuals, couples, families, businesses and organizations. I've provided a brief introduction to each of these practices below, as well as some of may favorite books on these practices.
The enneagram
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The Enneagram is an incredibly insightful tool for self-awareness, personal growth, and spiritual development. This seemingly simple symbol is actually a complex roadmap that can indicate where you are, where you have been, and how to return home to your true, authentic self. This is one of my favorite tools to work with, as there is so much we can understand about ourselves through our number and its stress and growth points. I have been studying the Enneagram since 2019 and I learn more and more every time I have the opportunity to explore it with someone!
An important component of the Enneagram that I examine is your growth point (the against arrow in the Enneagram image on this page), for example, I'm a 3 and my growth point is the 6. This is often the type you were before you became the adult type you are now. We move into the type you are now out of stress, likely during our school-age years, as this is a time when we are highly influenced by caregivers, peers, and the institutions we are raised in (school, religious organizations, etc.). During this period, many of us experience criticism, rejection, or even abandonment, resulting in us receiving the message that we are somehow not good enough. To address this vulnerability, we conform or compensate to feel safe and secure with those we depend on and want to belong with. This moves us into our stress point, our unnatural way of being. Remaining in this place for an extended period makes us forget how we used to be and we eventually assume this is our true nature, or at least the nature we've become accustomed to, given our lived experiences, relationships, and environment. |
To give you a brief example, when I was about 6 years old, I remember my mom saying that I moved "slow as molasses". I remembered she would get frustrated when I would hide behind her when meeting new people or doing something new. I never wanted to "put myself out there" and remember freezing on stage when my parents enrolled me in dance at school (type 6). As a result of their response to my way of being, I adapted and compensated by becoming a seemingly fearless, efficient, multitasking, overachiever (type 3) who forgot how to recognize my feeling and needs because I had to put them aside to be better received by my caregivers. After several periods of burnout, it's taken me years to begin naming my feelings and to put my needs first. As a 3, I didn't realize I was overextended until I was depleted and exhausted. Looking back, I remember being triggered when I perceived others being needy and expressing emotion. I now realized that was a clue. My not-self type 3 was recognizing my unsafe type 6 former self in those people and it put me on edge. Those moments were a mirror for me, an invitation to heal and become my true self again.
Understanding our first self, is knowing our true self. This is essential for reuniting with our authentic way of being, and, in being authentic, we cause less wear and tear on our emotional and physical bodies, resulting in less health issues, more meaningful relationships, and overall greater life satisfaction. I could go on and on with examples, but I'll pause here and summarize the primary offerings of the Enneagram.
An Enneagram Reading is useful for:
Understanding our first self, is knowing our true self. This is essential for reuniting with our authentic way of being, and, in being authentic, we cause less wear and tear on our emotional and physical bodies, resulting in less health issues, more meaningful relationships, and overall greater life satisfaction. I could go on and on with examples, but I'll pause here and summarize the primary offerings of the Enneagram.
An Enneagram Reading is useful for:
- Understanding your behaviors and ways of being in the world.
- Understanding what is driving those behaviors.
- Help you navigate relationships by sharing about your ennea-type and understanding theirs.
- Help you return to your true, authentic self (your growth point) by letting go of limiting beliefs and behaviors.
Here are some of my favorite Enneagram books:
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Numerology
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Numerology is a fascinating science that makes so much sense to me! It involves calculating the sum of the digits in your birthdate and your name, both as it appears on your birth certificate and through any name changes. These sums reveal everything from your life path, your soul and personality, and your destiny. Most people experience their numerology reading to be highly accurate and helpful in understanding their intentions and lessons for this lifetime. The premise is your Soul chose your birth date and your name (and any name changes) intentionally to provide the numbers that write the experiences it wanted to have in order to develop spiritually. Being incarnated as a human is a great way for souls to develop specific skills for their evolutionary journey. A numerology reading provides you with the outline for your most intentional and rewarding lived experience.
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These are some of my favorite Numerology books:
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The book, Your Soul Contract Decoded, offers a specific form of Numerology that uses the Hebrew alphabet to decipher the agreements your Soul made with other souls in order to reconcile Karma, use specific talents, and accomplish goals. This type of reading includes specific strategies for you to heal and grow as a spiritual being and is a fantastic companion to a traditional numerology reading.
A Numerology Reading is useful for:
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The Enneagram & Numerology
You may be wondering if the Enneagram and Numerology connect and even align in some ways. My answer is Yes! I think they do. There isn't a whole lot of information out there on this connection, but my research and work with clients has shown they are at the very least complimentary. From my perspective, at first glance, the Enneagram typically reveals our Ego persona, that is, the way we project and protect ourselves out in the world. For example, I'm an Enneagram type 3 and my Ego loves to protect me from feeling shame, which is largely caused by its belief that I'm worthless. Because of this, my Ego projects me out into the world as a capable and competent person who has earned all the degrees, completed all the trainings, and read all the books to be thoroughly knowledgable so that I can be seen as valuable in the eyes of others. It makes sure I am equipped to compete with others for the job, title, client, etc.
If we go deeper, beneath my Ego is my true personality, the me I was when I was little, before about age 7, when life usually gets ahold of us and takes us away from our authentic selves. As my authentic self, I am an Enneagram 6, my growth point. This understanding of the Enneagram is known as the Soul Child Theory, that our true type is our growth point. This theory arises from the belief and experience that childhood is stressful and our initial type moves to our stress point during our school age years. If we are lucky, we can realize this and return home to our true personality, where we feel more authentic and at peace in life. I can go on and on about this theory and love teaching people about it in my trainings and workshops.
Connecting this information to Numerology, my life path is a 6 with the theme of nurturing relationships. That is much more aligned with the Enneagram 6 than the 3. As a type 3, I am all about me, I find that relationships get in the way of me achieving my goals. In my authentic 6 type, I thrive in close, intimate relationships where I feel safe and supported. While the characteristics of an Enneagram 6 and Numerology 6 don't fully align, I see enough resemblance to believe their influence is similar. I plan to do more research on these similarities and differences in future publications.
I have much more to say on this topic. Please reach out if you'd like a combined reading and we can see how your numbers align.
If we go deeper, beneath my Ego is my true personality, the me I was when I was little, before about age 7, when life usually gets ahold of us and takes us away from our authentic selves. As my authentic self, I am an Enneagram 6, my growth point. This understanding of the Enneagram is known as the Soul Child Theory, that our true type is our growth point. This theory arises from the belief and experience that childhood is stressful and our initial type moves to our stress point during our school age years. If we are lucky, we can realize this and return home to our true personality, where we feel more authentic and at peace in life. I can go on and on about this theory and love teaching people about it in my trainings and workshops.
Connecting this information to Numerology, my life path is a 6 with the theme of nurturing relationships. That is much more aligned with the Enneagram 6 than the 3. As a type 3, I am all about me, I find that relationships get in the way of me achieving my goals. In my authentic 6 type, I thrive in close, intimate relationships where I feel safe and supported. While the characteristics of an Enneagram 6 and Numerology 6 don't fully align, I see enough resemblance to believe their influence is similar. I plan to do more research on these similarities and differences in future publications.
I have much more to say on this topic. Please reach out if you'd like a combined reading and we can see how your numbers align.
Soul Essence reading using The Akashic Records
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Reading Akashic Records adds a whole other dimension to the work I do. If you're unfamiliar, the Akashic Records are a 5th dimension energetic database of all beings for all time - I've heard it referred to as God's Memory.
The type of Akashic Records Reading I am trained in is called Soul Realignment. The intention is to help us understand the Soul, from its origination, and realign us to live out our Soul's plan for this lifetime. The Akashic Records help us have continuity through lifetimes so that the soul can continue lessons, balance karma, and redirect itself back to its mission when needed. Before incarnating, our Souls meet with their Guides to plan their next experience here on Earth. The Soul creates contracts with its Soul Group to fulfill these lessons, meaning those we are here with on Earth have agreed to be part of our experience so that we can learn, grow, and evolve. That is what life is all about, Earth is a school and a playground to experience life events, relationships, and ourselves in ways that allow us to expand into our next level of being. |
A Soul Realignment Reading using the Akashic Records is useful for:
- Understanding yourself at soul-level.
- Realigning yourself with your Soul's intentions for this lifetime.
- Clearing blocks and restrictions that are limiting your ability to complete your soul-level lessons.
- Understand negative karmic patterns that are keeping you stuck and going in the wrong direction in life so that you can make different choices and take action toward your Soul's intentional path for you.
You can learn more about Soul Realignment through the Akashic Records here:
Human Design
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Human Design is a combination of the Kabbalah, I'Ching, Astrology, Hindu Chakra system, and Quantum Physics, and can provide us with a user manual for the energetic nature of our being. Like Astrology, it uses our date, time, and place of birth to calculate our energetic body's way of communicating and responding to the world outside us. Through a Human Design Reading you can learn the mechanics of your life force. Our bodies are in credibly wise and connected to our thoughts, emotions, and actions. Understanding our Human Design can reveal how we can best take care of our energetic needs, make decisions in alignment with our authentic nature, and how to know when we are in our "not-self", out of alignment with our optimum presence and functioning in life. Ultimately, this will help us live healthy, fulfilling lives.
One of my favorite ways to use Human Design, other than for myself of course!, is to know my children's design. Knowing their designs has helped me understand them better and work with their system, rather than against it. Feel free to request a free sample reading for your kiddo! |
These are some of my favorite Human Design and Body Wellness/Healing books:
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Reiki
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Reiki is a Japanese Healing practice. The word "Reiki" comes from the Japanese words "rei" (meaning "spiritual" or "universal") and "ki" (meaning "life force energy"). Reiki practitioners channel life force energy into the client's body to help them heal physical, emotional, and relational injuries, replenish their bodies, clear and balance their energy centers, relax, and more!
Reiki changed my life. It is the reason I have learned all of these practices and changed my career from counselor to CounSouler. I'd love to share this incredible experience with you! |
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Body Psychology
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Your body is your vehicle for this lifetime. It is sensitive and wise, complex and sophisticated. It is constantly receiving and processing data and communicating to you. One of my favorite things to do with clients is reunite them with their body, helping them learn to listen and appreciate all their body does for them, each and every moment of their life. Unfortunately, many of my clients have grown to mistrust their body or live in fear that they will be overwhelmed if they stay in their body too much. Their body hasn't always felt safe to be in. Most of us, including myself, have been conditioned to not listen to our body and ignore or override its messages. I use gentle techniques such as somatic awareness, Internal Family Systems therapy, Intuitive Yoga, and Body Psychology to help people understand their body's communication.
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Body Psychology is understanding the emotional and relational dynamics that contribute to your physical ailments. Energetic blocks or restrictions, such as someone not speaking their truth, or not allowing themselves to do things they truly want to do, can contribute to the development of physical ailments because these energetic impulses from the body are not allowed to flow. Body Psychology does not blame anyone for these dynamics - I have learned through my own work and my work with clients that there is a valid reason for these behaviors to be present. Instead, I invite clients with physical ailments to explore this possibility and "try on" meanings to see if they resonate. If they do, we can work together to understand and address these behaviors and patterns to help alleviate the physical manifestation in your body. I consider it like using a lab test to see what vitamins you are deficient in. There is no need to blame anyone for the deficiency, instead, let's address it.
Body Psychology is simply the interpretation of your body's ailments into psychological terms so that you can address the issue from that angle, as well as any medical or physical interventions that are necessary.
Body Psychology is simply the interpretation of your body's ailments into psychological terms so that you can address the issue from that angle, as well as any medical or physical interventions that are necessary.
intuitive yoga
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One of the themes of all of my approaches is building your intuition, or your inner knowing. I use psycho-spiritual assessments to help you remember yourself and reconnect with essential aspects of your energetic expression in this lifetime. Intuition is the whisper of your Soul.
I often get asked about the difference between intuition and fear and I respond, knowing isn't afraid, it is aware and sending you information about that awareness. Fear is worry. It can ruminate and catastrophize. It isn't as defined and solid as knowing. It is feels different. This is one of the many reasons why body work is so important. Intuitive Yoga helps you learn to listen to your body and work with your body's communications. In Intuitive Yoga, your body leads, you listen and follow. You explore the movements and expressions your body wants to make. We sit with your body and explore what comes next. No previous Yoga experience is necessary, just a willingness to meet your body and an openness to what comes next. |
These are some of my favorite books on bringing Reiki, Body Psychology, and Yoga into psychotherapy:
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Tarot & Oracle Cards
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Tarot and Oracle cards reflect our experience. Our energy aligns with the cards and they reveal the messages waiting for us. Tarot is a classic companion of the human experience, with the fool modeling our ability to withstand challenges and learn the lessons of the human condition. Oracle cards guide us with messages from our Soul, the Angels, Ascended Masters, and the Universe. These messages give us hope and comfort that we are never alone.
I love using cards to enhance my other readings, I find that they provide nuanced insight into the information provided. I have many decks and often see a deck while providing Reiki. I draw cards from that deck and provide that information after the healing. All of my modalities are complimentary of one another and bring me so much joy to share with others! |
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These are some of my favorite Tarot books:
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Connecting the Pieces...
Simply put, I understand that our human experience is intentional and that it was carefully planned out and designed for our Soul's development as a spiritual being by our Soul and its Guides and the spiritual order of the Universe. Our Soul is a member of a Soul Group that helps each other develop by playing various roles for each other in each lifetime. You can read more about this in these books written by hypnotherapists who perform Past Life Regressions and document what souls share about life between lives:
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When we're born, there is a veil that separates us from our connection to the spirit world so that we can be fully present in this experience of the physical world. I see it like when we're at school, we're focused and learning in the school environment and not usually directly connected and attending to our home environment. I believe the veil and the amnesia of our Soul's plan and our contracts is intentional to provide the optimum learning experience. As hypnotherapists note in their Past Lives Regression case studies, It would not be a test if you were given the answers. We are meant to have experiences that challenge us. The services I offer can help you recognize your challenges, lessons, purpose, gifts, strengths, and more, supporting you in growing through what you go through. If you have any questions about these services, feel free to reach out, I'd love to hear from you!